Jessica Walsh

Did you see Timothy today?
Oui.

What did y’all do together?
We met up at City Bakery in the morning for breakfast.

Did anything interesting happen?
I ordered a green juice and a latte, Tim ordered a muffin and a tea. We had small talk at a cute Parisian style cafe table.

Did you learn anything new about Timothy?
Tim loves to constantly talk. I, on the other hand, hate small talk. I am totally comfortable enjoying silence with the person I am dating, especially if there’s nothing interesting or relevant to talk about. I think my silence drives him nuts.

Did you learn anything new about yourself?
I am seriously in love with coffee. I drink three to five cups of coffee per day. I love the ritual, the taste, the boost of energy, the reason to take a break. I love it in all its forms: a shot of espresso, a cup of black iced coffee, a creamy latte. I’ll even eat coffee beans straight.

Tim does not drink coffee or espresso. It’s definitely trivial, but I wish we shared the mutual love!

How do you feel about this relationship/project right now?
I wonder if we’ll continue to be physical after we hooked up Saturday night.

Is there anything that you want to do differently?
It’s going to be a crazy week of work, and the headaches continue to come and go. No matter what happens, I want to stay calm, and stay positive.

Additional comments?
I adore giving and receiving handwritten notes. I’ve kept every note that’s ever been given to me in a leather suitcase. While texting and emails take over our lives, a handwritten note feels so much more special and romantic.

Toward the end of breakfast, Tim handed me a brown envelope. Inside was the sweetest little 20-day anniversary card. All smiles over here. It’s amazing how much the little things can be so huge in a relationship.

Jessica Walsh

Did you see Timothy today?
Yes.

What did y’all do together?
We did a rapid fire Truth Test experiment today!

Did anything interesting happen?
We had our friend Dan Blackman ask us a series of questions about our past and about this relationship.

Did you learn anything new about Timothy?
Tim was very defensive with his answers relating to past relationships and dating. Even after the experiment was over, he seemed to feel the need to justify his past actions to us. It makes me think Tim is not completely comfortable with himself or at peace with his past.

Did you learn anything new about yourself?
I know I can be overly candid. I know this straightforwardness is a turnoff for some guys, and it’s definitely not Tim’s style. Tim likes to flirt. Tim likes the excitement of the pursuit. He likes to play games. He loves the drama. I hate games. I like to cut to the chase, and be real.

How do you feel about this relationship/project right now?
Good, I love experiments! Life is a series of experiments. I am constantly testing out new ways to work, live, learn, sleep, act, and react. I am always trying to figure out how to be as productive and happy as I can.

Is there anything that you want to do differently?
The experiment today reminded me how gut instincts are often the most honest and interesting. I find this with my creative work, too. While I believe it’s important to exhaust numerous concepts and possibilities, I often come back to my initial ideas. I should stop overthinking things.

Additional comments?
Tim looked at me at one point today, with a cute smile, and said, “we’re so crazy.” We really, really are.

Jessica Walsh

Did you see Timothy today?
Yes.

What did y’all do together?
My design / business partner Stefan and his fiancée Veza left a letter on my desk at work. It said “40 days. One evening for Romance. Much love”. Inside were two tickets to go see Leonard Cohen at Radio City Music hall. So lovely and thoughtful, as they always are!

An hour before the show I couldn’t find the tickets anywhere. I tore up my apartment trying to find them but they were nowhere to be found. I was extremely embarrassed and angry at myself. I’m normally more responsible, but the last few weeks have been overwhelming and I feel frazzled. I couldn’t believe my stupidity, and it bothered me the entire night. Tim thinks I need to go a little easier on myself.

Tim suggested we head over to MO Bar at the Mandarin Oriental Hotel. We had a few ginger mojitos and talked about life. Everything from past relationships and experiences to work, goals for the future, and the universe. At one point in the conversation he grabbed my hand and held it. Finally! His touch was welcomed, and it felt very nice. We continued to touch and hold hands throughout the night.

Did anything interesting happen?
On the way out of the bar we ran into Laura, my old advisor from high school. I hadn’t seen her in over 10 years! She helped me through a rough patch which I opened up to Tim about on the cab ride home. After I told him the story, he grabbed and kissed me. We kissed the entire cab ride. I invited him up to my apartment. We opened a bottle of red wine, and we continued to kiss on the couch. I could have kissed him all night, but he didn’t want to rush things, and he left early.

Did you learn anything new about Timothy?
I don’t think Tim likes to dance. Late last night we were texting about possibly hanging out. When I told him I was going out dancing, he stopped responding.

Did you learn anything new about yourself?
I was always a terrible dancer. In college, I was nicknamed “the finger dancer”, as I was too shy and self-conscious to dance. I’d just move my fingers back and forth at parties.

My younger sister Lauren has the exact opposite personality of me. She’s naturally extremely outgoing, confident, and she couldn’t care less what anyone thinks of her. Over the years, I’ve learned to adopt a bit of her fearlessness towards life, and I’m much more outgoing and open now.

Every once in a while I get this urge to let loose and dance. I’ve been working long nights, and my headaches feel better today, so I was ready for a night out last night. My sister is really into the electronic music scene, so we went out with a friend to a place called Output. I know I’m just as awkward at dancing as I always was, but I can enjoy it now! I must say it’s extremely liberating when you stop caring what people think.

How do you feel about this relationship/project right now?
Good! The intimacy with Tim was nice. I’m excited to see where things might go from here.

Is there anything that you want to do differently?
I guess I should go a little easier on myself, I am only human. I’d like to be more fearless. And I should definitely keep a closer eye on $300 concert tickets.

Additional comments?
That’s all.